Healing the Heart of Relationship - Couples Forgiveness Workshop gets right down to the Heart of the matter. It is about Forgiveness. Forgiveness from the Heart – not from the head! People just don’t know the difference - until they do. We just don’t know what we do not know until we finally come to that place where the light comes on and suddenly we see what we have been doing and how it has affected everything in our lives. You know how it is. One day the light comes on and it all clicks. You are not quite sure why you did not see it before but you did not. And now you do.

How many times shall we forgive? 7 x 7 x 7 x 7 x …or in other words as many times as it takes to get it done. Now we have the DTQ process, which is the method we use in the Heart Forgiveness workshop and the method we use in all of our workshops. It is effective because it is fast, fun, positive, and permanent. The DTQ method is the game changer that everyone has been looking for in relationships especially. How else can you possibly live with someone and be happy for fifty or sixty plus years otherwise? Honestly?!
Have you ever started over after years of marriage? I have …a few times. Back to square one is NOT as much FUN as one might initially think. The grass is not greener on the other side. Just different. Not better. Just different. Time and memories and challenges overcome together are hard to beat. Very hard to forget, and particularly impossible to replace. There is no one better out there unless you become a better person and then everyone is better because you are too. Funny how that works, isn’t it?
At a recent Heart Forgiveness Workshop, a participant said, ” I can’t think of anything to write. I am not angry at anyone about anything.”
Really? Let’s ask your energy, I said. Not only did we ask her energy and find out that she was strongly angry. We also found that she had billions of angers compiled over her lifetime. Yet she could not think of one. It happens to at least one participant in each workshop. Some people have pushed it so far down and so far back that they just cannot think of anything. That’s because the anger is not in their heads – it’s in their ENERGY! That is where it does the most damage of all. Anger in the heart and in the energy is lethal. Really.
The absolute truth is that one cannot love deeply as long as one is angry. Anger cuts into ones ability to love oneself and thus others.
Repression is not Forgiveness.
Just because you can’t remember does not mean there is no anger. Repression, conscious or subconscious decisions to push anger away, down, back, or out of the thoughts does not constitute forgiveness and neither does telling your brain to forgive and forget. The absolute truth is that time does NOT heal all wounds. Add to that all the things you know you are mad about. Everything your mate does that annoys and frustrates you counts toward that huge mountain of never forgotten crap that comes up every time you have a major disagreement. Wouldn’t you like to have a disagreement and get over it in 5 minutes with no harm done and still speaking to each other? Wouldn’t it be nice NOT to get your feelings hurt? Would you like to live UNOFFENDABLE? Imagine that! Wouldn’t you like to laugh together without that mountain of junk between you? I can tell you that it really makes a difference in the way you relate to each other and with each other. After years of pulling back, I still remember the day I said to my husband, “Let’s be one of those couples who makes it!” That is when the real work and the real fun began.
First you learn to be in your HEART. You forgive yourself and then you forgive each other. Remember that old saying, when you point the finger at your partner there are three fingers pointing back at you? Forgiveness is not a one way street.We just have to learn how!
It takes stamina and determination to keep a marriage strong and happy in today’s world of planned obsolescence and instant gratification. Almost everything is disposable. That is not supposed to apply to people. If you really are with the person you love and you are glad you married them, this workshop is for you. Two weekend intensives with a vow renewal on the beach on Sunday evening and creating a real chance for a lasting and truly celebratory marriage. This workshop series is the best thing a couple can do to get a good fresh start on a great marriage and long term relationship of dedicated love.
The first weekend clears out all the anger from the past and other relationships and disappointments as well as current angers so that each couple and each partner can be free of the effects of past disappointments and hurts. Clearing those issues without telling your story is as freeing as meeting with a clean slate as you could hope to achieve.
The second weekend is four sessions of Core Health and building a solid self so you know who you are from this day forward. Now you can be you in your relationship and you are ready to tackle the clearing of money issues.
The next step which is Funny with Money – the number one argument stimulus for most couples today. Get rid of anger. Become solid in yourself. Then come back when you are ready for weekend number 3 and Are YOU Funny With Money. Weekend three will be scheduled for about a month later. (This is not included in this package)
The first two weekends (this package) are two weeks apart allowing time to process each weekend. Our recommended part 3 we schedule when all five couples are ready (about a month later) based on our phone conversations and your email notes with Michael and Alexandra.
RE: Vow Renewal
People love to get remarried after the workshops because the first time they got married in their heads and it almost didn’t work and now they are getting married in their hearts. It matters. Vow renewal is optional the afternoon of the second weekend. It is non denominational and the standard wedding vows are taken. See Signup details page and accommodations.
If you want to be one of those couples who make it, give us a call. We wouldn’t have it any other way.
Blessings and Love to All.

Alexandra and Michael Barrett,
Certified Facilitators, Ordained Ministers
Sign up here for next workshop – leave deposit to save space, only 5 couples per this workshop. Dates to be announced.