You may be wondering about this topic. What does resistance have to do with receiving forgiveness? I may not have addressed this topic only a brief year ago, but a year has taught me a lot about myself and others.
Resistance is often our greatest foe and our most powerful nemesis. Having observed hundreds of people take and experience Heart Forgiveness and Core Health Workshops, I can say that the level of resistance to receiving is the only real challenge I ever see. Some people are so resistant to forgiving themselves that their resistance is like a concrete wall blocking the way. Those people can come away having cleared only 5o or 60 percent in some of the sessions. Some will clear 80, 90 or even 95 percent, but they just can’t stay out of their heads long enough or get completely into their hearts so that they can clear completely. Yet, even for those folks, the clearings they do are so effective that their lives change dramatically. Fortunately for them, the energy keeps working even when they are stuck in their heads and somehow the inner pull toward their own pure core of health is stronger than the alternating push of resistance to letting go and receiving.
It is fairly easy to spot the people are who are not fully open to clearing.
These are the same people who are always right about everything, always have all the answers, always think other people have no clue what they are doing, and always believe that their way is the only way or that they should be leading the workshop and therefore they interrupt constantly whether on point or completely off topic.
The sad thing about this and the reason I make this point is that unfortunately for them, these are the very same people who rarely get as much as they might have gotten and really wanted to get from the class. They came with the best of intentions but their ego just would not permit them to take a break long enough to receive the benefits they came to receive and needed the most.
Sometimes it is because they are often the same people who never give respect and credibility to others that they might actually learn something from them. For example they might not like the way the facilitator speaks, they might not like the way the facilitator dresses, they may feel the facilitator doesn’t have enough degrees or letters after their name ….etc, etc. These are the people who will always find fault with anyone who is trying to show them something they think they either already know more about or do not really need to know.
In other words, they are the know-it-alls of the universe.
No matter what you show them or what you bring to their attention they already know that and more. You may hear them finishing the facilitators sentences for them, telling the facilitator what to say or correcting the facilitator mid-sentence and interrupting repeatedly to tell their stories. One cannot help but wonder why they are there to begin with. The truth is that their cup “overfloweth” and there is simply no room for more inside their minds at this moment. But wait….!
Heart Forgiveness and Core Health are not done in the mind.
They are of no use there. You can’t forgive in the mind and clear the glitches. Some people are truly “head cases.” They believe that whatever they think is the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, yet they know they are not happy. Their belief systems have not served them overly well thus far, which is why they sign up for self-growth workshops and seminars to begin with. So what to do about this issue and especially if you know that you are one of these people?
First of all be on the lookout for signs of RESISTANCE!
As soon as you find yourself judging the facilitator instead of paying attention – ooppps! You are in your head. As soon as you find yourself second guessing or trying to upstage the facilitator with your brilliance – oopps! You are in your head. Once more, as soon as you dismiss the assignment you needed to do in between sessions or after the intensive weekend workshop because you already know all that – ooopps! You are in your head and you will not benefit to the degree that you truly desire. Sometimes we just need to learn to shut up! It is almost impossible to truly listen and talk at the same time.
Remember, “If you do what you’ve always done; you will get what you’ve always gotten.” That is true, and if you are one of these people, no one knows it better than you. It was written for those of you who spend all your time in your head trying to out-think the facilitator/speaker, and prove that they don’t know what they are talking about. At least, you reason, it does not really apply to you!
The most important thing about this conversation is that we are talking about highly destructive behavior that undermines the success and growth of each person who indulges in it and it is in one way or another absolutely attached to the reason for the lack of real satisfaction, success, and completion. There is something trying desperately to get your attention and finally be dealt with. Somewhere inside all you have ever wanted was peace, to be happy, to feel acknowledged and recognized. You want to be heard.
Resistance To Receiving Forgiveness.
What we have discovered is that beyond the 12 levels of Core Health, there are other issues that one can clear either privately or in groups but its like trying to clean a house with 30, 40, or 50 years worth of accumulated debris. You can’t always do it all in one day or one workshop. There is such a thing as processing overload! You CAN get a great jump start on living your best life ever and getting rid of your toxic anger. After that your energy may need processing time. I speak from experience and no one had more CRAP to clear than I did! It is truly amazing how the energy just keeps on processing once it learns how to do it. Decide that you are not willing to tolerate resistance to the very self forgiveness you crave and commit to your own happiness even if you must duct-tape your ego/interruption habit for a weekend!
AND KNOW THIS…
Anyone who is really ready and willing…is also able to clear their anger in this course. The process actually works. This post is more of a heads up to those who have a bad habit of undermining themselves and do not even see it when they are doing it. Make this time different. Commit to yourself because YOU are the only one who matters in this instant and you are here for YOU. When you release toxic anger, you actually make the world a better, lighter place to live in and everyone around you will feel it too.
Stay tuned for more about how Heart Forgiveness and Core Health can help you improve the level of happiness, success and joy in your life! Remember…The Key is to BE FREE!
I Am Rev. Alexandra Barrett and I Am a Certified Heart Forgiveness and Core Health Facilitator.